By your flying style description you have many options. Most of which will yield flight times from 5-7 minutes. 10 minutes will be hard to achieve. Yes you are over thinking just a bit
No you do not need to calculate anything really other than KV and gearing versus your desired head speed. I suggest a target of 1900-2000.
Suggestions on motor: a 4035 of same brand. I use Xnova 4035. Also have used Scorpion 4025. The KDE 700XF is also good choice. KV can be 480-530 with pinion selection of 13t for a 480 and 12t for 1 520(or 530)
ESC: If I we building a new E7 SE I would go with the Castle Talon 120. I currently run one on my E7 SE with an Xnova 4530-480. I get spikes around 140amps and the Talon handles it well. The reason I suggest the Talon is the build in BEC is flawless.
Batteries: I have run 3850's to 5000's in my E7 SE. I find that 4400 or so is the best trade off for weight versus flight time. I currently get 4-1/2 minutes of moderate 3-d using the 4530 motor. The 4035 motors would give you somewhere around 5-6 minutes depending on your head speed. If you go to 5000mah then 7 minutes would be attainable.
If you have not looked at this I would suggest trying MrMel's head speed calculator.
http://heli.dacsa.net/calcv3/Default.aspxIt is a very useful tool for calculating gearing and head speed.
Either of the charger choices you listed will be fine. It really depends on how fast you want to charge. If at home I would assume you have plenty of time? A 1000W system would actually do.
Cheers
Alan